But we can acknowledge the appeal of dating older dudes and still be grounded in a, perhaps harsh, reality at the same time: A relationship between a teen and an adult isn’t real. Duh, nobody is going to deny that feelings can’t be felt.
I have no interest in sitting here and saying that your heart palpitations for an older guy you might be dating aren’t real. But when we’re talking about a relationship between a teenager and an adult who is significantly older–yeah, not just some 16-year-old dating an 18-year-old–there is often something weirdly fraudulent about it.
It doesn’t help that women have been wired for centuries to equate their worth with youth and beauty. “It is often the limiting thoughts a woman has absorbed that can create problems for the couple,” says Winter.
“If she is fearful, insecure and doubting her merit, she will never be able to accept that her younger man loves her.” Winter adds that media reports about Demi Moore’s obsession with looking young are “the perfect example of how the ideal of youth and beauty can torture even the most lovely example of a modern-day woman.” The idea that one must maintain an illusion of youth to keep a younger partner is illogical. “It's an up-front buy that he's willing to accept, because he values the totality of who she is and what she brings to his life.” Talk about family planning.
Depends on the kid - and the date My parents said 16. It also depends on your relationship with your kid and how well you trust him/her, plus the boy/girlfriend and other friends.
The dating sneak attack My Dad always said no dating until I was 16.
These two factors create a powerful chemistry between the two." Watch Your Insecurities.
" Predictably, two of the three dads who weighed in responded with "Never!
" FM, from Los Angeles, Calif., added "Italian father. My head just exploded at the thought." Here's what the rest of the Web had to say about kids and dating: Define dating Dating" or "Hanging out" Big difference these days ... but around 7th [grade], when the dances start, the dating starts.
Then there was Ashton Kutcher who stepped out with a 23-year-old, leading Demi Moore into a whippet-induced 911 scandal. “In the hundreds of cases I've researched, the couples I know and with whom I've worked, there is love and fidelity,” she says.
Besides, these younger men usually have little reason to stray.